Redemption Statement on Marriage

We believe marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God, filled with purpose, beauty, and spiritual significance. From the beginning of Scripture to its fulfillment in Christ, marriage is revealed not merely as a social arrangement but as a divine institution that reflects God’s heart and His redemptive plan for humanity.

We believe that Christian marriage is a lifelong, covenantal union between one man and one woman, established by God (Genesis 1:26–28; 2:24; Matthew 19:4-6). This design reflects both God’s creative intent and His desire to establish strong families, nurture faith in future generations, and display His covenant faithfulness. (Malachi 2:15) In this covenant, a husband and wife are joined together as “one flesh,” committing themselves to faithfulness, sacrificial love, and mutual submission under the lordship of Jesus Christ.

Marriage is more than companionship; it is a living picture of the relationship between Christ and His Church (Ephesians 5:21–33). As Christ loves the Church with sacrificial, covenantal love, so husbands are called to love their wives. As the Church responds to Christ in trust and devotion, so wives are called to respect and honor their husbands. Together, this union becomes a visible testimony of the gospel to the world.

We also believe that sexual intimacy is a gift from God, created to be expressed and enjoyed exclusively within the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman (1 Corinthians 6–7; Hebrews 13:4). This design is not restrictive, but protective and life-giving, intended for intimacy, unity, and joy. Scripture consistently affirms this vision of marriage and sexuality, and calls believers to honor God with their bodies and relationships (Romans 1; 1 Timothy 1:9–11).
Our pastors officiate weddings that align with this biblical vision of marriage. We joyfully partner with couples who desire to enter into this covenant in a way that honors Christ and reflects His love.

We recognize that marriage is both a profound joy and a significant commitment. It requires intentional preparation, Christ-centered devotion, and the empowering work of the Holy Spirit. Our desire is not simply to perform a ceremony, but to help build strong, healthy, Christ-centered marriages that flourish for a lifetime.
Marriage, as God designed it, is a beautiful invitation: to love deeply, to grow spiritually, and to reflect the very heart of God to the world.

Important Questions & Pastoral Guidance

We recognize that every couple’s story is unique. Our desire is to walk with you in grace and truth, honoring both the beauty of your relationship and the wisdom of Scripture. Below are responses to some common and important questions as you consider marriage at Redemption:
What if my fiancé is not a committed Christian or adheres to another religion?
We understand that relationships can be complex, and this may be a deeply personal and emotional situation. Scripture teaches that marriage is not only a relational union, but a spiritual partnership. In 2 Corinthians 6:14, we are instructed not to be “unequally yoked,” meaning that two people joined together in marriage should share the same faith and spiritual direction.

Because of this, our pastors will not officiate a wedding between a follower of Jesus Christ and someone who does not share that same faith. This conviction is not about exclusion, but about alignment, believing that a shared commitment to Christ is foundational for a healthy, thriving, Christ-centered marriage.

If you find yourself in this situation, we would genuinely welcome a conversation with you. Our heart is to listen, care for you, and help you discern your next steps.
What if we are living together?
We recognize that many couples today choose to live together before marriage, often with good intentions. However, as followers of Jesus preparing for a Christ-centered marriage, we believe God calls us to a different standard, one that reflects His design for sexual integrity and holiness.

Scripture teaches that sexual intimacy is reserved for the covenant of marriage, and calls us to live lives set apart in this area (Ephesians 5:1–3). Because of this, we ask that couples seeking to be married at Redemption commit to not sleeping together prior to their wedding, and to pursue sexual integrity, choosing celibacy during your engagement.

We understand this can be a significant and sometimes challenging step. Our pastors are here to support you, not shame you, and to help you take meaningful steps toward honoring God as you prepare for marriage.
What if I or my partner are divorced?
We approach this topic with deep compassion and care, recognizing that divorce is often painful and complex. While Scripture upholds the covenant of marriage, it also allows for divorce under certain circumstances.
Each situation is thoughtfully and prayerfully reviewed by our pastoral team. Divorced individuals may be considered for remarriage if their situation aligns with biblical guidance, including circumstances such as:

* The divorce occurred prior to coming to faith in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17)
* The divorce was due to sexual unfaithfulness by a former spouse (Matthew 19:3–9)
* The divorce was initiated by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:12–15)
* A believing spouse was abandoned or divorced without biblical grounds
* Desertion by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15)
The former spouse is deceased (Romans 7:2; 1 Corinthians 7:39)
* The former spouse has remarried
* Reconciliation and remarriage to a former spouse (where biblically appropriate; Deuteronomy 24:1–4)

Because divorce is such a significant life event, if either person has been divorced within the past year, we ask that you meet with a member of our pastoral team to discuss your readiness for remarriage and to ensure space for healing and wise discernment.
We know these topics can carry weight and emotion. Please know that you are not alone in navigating them. If you have questions or would like to talk further, we invite you to connect with one of our pastors. We would be honored to walk alongside you in this journey.